Violent attacks, tragic accidents, natural disasters, wars, sexual and emotional abuse, and dozens of other such events show that the external world is not always controllable, regardless of our knowledge and resources. These painful challenges can suddenly shift the apparent arena of control from the external to the internal world.
The pain may have begun on the outside, but it lives on in the inside, in the form of painful memories, difficult emotions, negative thoughts, or unpleasant urges. Once there, people do what people do with painful memories, difficult emotions, negative thoughts, or unpleasant urges. And that’s often a problem.
Humans’ relative skill in controlling their external world often fails them when applied to the world within. It is hard to get rid of painful memories, reduce difficult emotions, or eliminate negative thoughts and urges.
Indeed, modern psychological research is showing us that part of what often turns pain into trauma is the misapplication of some of the very skills we most trust in controlling the world outside the skin – judging, planning, problem solving, and controlling – to the world inside the skin.
Until the secret of how the human mind works is revealed, it tends to do what it has always done – like a pony who knows only one trick endlessly performing it. But modern psychological research is also revealing that it is possible to do truly new things with our memories, emotions, thoughts, and urges than what problem-solving minds normally do.
These mindfulness, acceptance and neurofeedback methods seem to allow us to move quickly in the direction of a life we value without first waiting for the war inside us to be won. The Kintsugi Programme from The Cabin will show you how to take that alternative path.
The Kintsugi Programme takes the view that your life is not a problem to be solved. A life is to be lived, with the past exactly as it has been but with a future as broad as your most deeply held values. Moving in that direction requires learning how to let go of some kinds of problem solving. It means learning how to feel feelings as feelings, and thinking thoughts as thoughts.
This is a full immersion programme, because it takes fully immersive work to learn an alternative path. Mere understanding is not enough. Minds cannot fully grasp how to solve problems in a nonjudgmental way because solving problems planfully and judgmentally is what minds do.
The human mind is a problem-solving organ – it cannot help but do what it does. When we look at our own pain, we initially cannot help but judge it, anticipate it, reason with it, and try to get it to go away.
It is very likely you’ve already tried that. And if it produced everything you want; you would not have journeyed here to join The Kintsugi Programme. You are looking for a new way forward. You have found one with The Cabin.
The Kintsugi Programme allows us a new way forward when some of our most trusted skills are no longer very effective. It offers suggestions for what to do when little we can think of is very likely to be helpful. It gently points toward exciting alternatives when seemingly nothing we can do will do.
The scientific evidence bases for the combined therapies that The Kintsugi Programme delivers in the areas of trauma, pain, anxiety, and depression – areas most participants of this programme will likely know something about in personal terms – are independently established as stand-alone treatments and have rightly grown rapidly. They are brought together collectively only by The Cabin though to make up your The Kintsugi Programme.
The body of evidence for the combined therapies is not as large yet as for some of the more traditional ‘single’ approaches, so people who have never worked on these problems with traditional cognitive behavioural, somatic, neuroscientific or other more fully empirically supported methods may wish to consider that.
Nevertheless, there is enough solid research-based evidence for us to be able to offer the best first line treatments available to those who may benefit, especially those who need a fresh approach. You are in a unique position. If you are willing to be guided by your own pain, and our expertise, we can support you to learn a new way forward. At The Cabin we believe that is part of why fate and happenstance have brought you to The Kintsugi Programme.
If the old ways had continued to work adequately, you would have no reason to learn a new way. We are glad you got here. When you are ready to turn the page we will be beside you to help you to write the next chapter in your life. It is time to begin to learn a new way. Let’s get started. Be the central part of the success story that is your recovery and call The Cabin today.